easternjewel wrote:FeiPo wrote:I think sometime a guy acting too desperate and to pushie will scare the girl away. Like I walked away with my long term boyfriend (almost 4 years) when he started to tell me he wanted a family and kids (when I was only 22).
Maybe you should take your time, don't talk about marrying her when you only know her for 3 months.
ironic is, some girls will ditch the guy if he does not express he loves her to the point of getting married & having kids from her.... some girls like that! Poor guys, have to make tough decisions!
this is pretty interesting, cos i think it has to do with primary instincts. once u get involved u start wanting things, even if not on a conscious level. lot of women dont ever want kids, but its good to know that the man near u can see u as the mother of his children. the explanation is very simple i guess. a committed woman wants the same commitment from her man. and instinctively there is no stronger proof for commitment than wanting a common child. just as there is no greater love declaration from a man, than when he says "i want to have a child with u". and i repeat, it is so even if the woman never ever wanna have kids.
now thats a whole different story when u kick smbody out cos he is not getting ready for wedding after a few month of being together