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I was talking to my friend today who has just revealed that she is pregnant for the third time. This will mean she has 3 children under the age of 4 years of age. I resisted the urge to tell her she needed her head looking at as she seemed ok with the situation. She is 21 weeks pregnant and I wondered why she had chosen not to reveal her condition for a while. She said it was because she thought people would think she was an idiot.

Now, personally, if I decided I wanted to extend my family, I wouldn't give two hoots what anyone else thought about it.

We got talking about my friend's sister, who, unfortunately, can get pregnant but can't seem to carry a child, resulting in numerous miscarriages.

My friend's siser has been sucessful in adopting a child, not only one child but twins!

She has been going through the adoption process, visiting the children in their foster homes, having them overnight, having them during the day and finally having them full time. She and her husband are now the proud parents of beautiful twin girls, aged 11 months.

My friend has told me that the girls were fostered from birth and although she knows their history, is keeping it to themselves.
I saw her with the twins the other day, They seemed to be suffering with hay fever. It got me thinking. Was hay fever in the family? What other problems would manifest themselves in later life? If their parents were drug addicts, would the children have addictive personalities?

I don't think I could adopt a child. I don't think I'm that good. When the child was a bit older and gave me some cheek, I'd want to send the little sod back! My full admiration goes to adoptive parents.

Adoption? Not for me. Could you adopt someone else's child?

Bethsmum wrote: I saw her with the twins the other day, They seemed to be suffering with hay fever. It got me thinking. Was hay fever in the family? What other problems would manifest themselves in later life? If their parents were drug addicts, would the children have addictive personalities?

With such an attitude it would be better for you to avoid adoption because it's more about love than a head. Own child could rise in a drug addict but adopted one could have very high IQ, absolute pitch etc.

On the other hand my personal experience shows that it's harder to educate adopted child than own one in terms of understanding.

That's my point RC. You have to be a special person to adopt a child and I admire people that do. I wouldn't consider it, but obviously if I were childless I might feel differently. I'm definately not the right person to try to adopt a child. I'm not that keen on kids.
I would always wonder whether the problems you would encounter were because of the childs genes or if they would happen anyway.

Bethsmum wrote: I would always wonder whether the problems you would encounter were because of the childs genes or if they would happen anyway.

I don't quite understand the sence of those reflections. In my view, If there is a problem parents should do everything to fix it regardless of where that problem came from.

I'm not talking about trying to fix any problems RC. That is what any parent would do, I hope. I was wondering where the problems may come from in the first place.