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Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
If your partner cheated on you (sleeps with another man/woman) - would you
(a) leave them
(b) give them another chance
(c) depends on circumstances

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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
C for me. I wouldn't throw everything away for a moment of madness
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Ditch them! Once a cheater, always a cheater!
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
There speaks the voice of an unmarried person
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
I'm an A myself. I just couldn't look at her and feel the same way - it might kill me but it would be the point of no return.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
No Joe, there are worse things than going with another.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
BM, you like to assume an awful lot about people!

I do talk from experience and the experiences of friends of mine. One the trust has gone, it's very very hard to get it back. There are reasons why men or women cheat. Some people just aren't meant to be in monogamous relationships.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Duck BM, incoming fire!
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Bethsmum wrote:Duck BM, incoming fire!


Nope, just saying, stop assuming things about people! You could be way off the mark! Afterall there is the old saying, to assume, makes an A.S.S out of U and ME.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Chocs, what am I assuming? That you are not married? I think you have made reference to that on the forum, haven't you? I am assuming you have a German boy friend who is handy, I could be wrong. When I said 'there speaks the voice of an unmarried person', I was refering to the fact that there is a whole lot more to consider when ending a marriage than your husband/wife having a mad moment. If married couples have children, a mortgage and a history together, would you jump in and dump them without a second thought? I wouldn't. Before you come in and say my husband probably cheated on me, I can say, that as far as I know, he didn't and I am sure he would have mentioned it during our rather messy divorce.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Back ON topic! As I said there are many reasons why people cheat. But can you honestly get the trust back once it's gone? I know I can't so it's adios.

I know some people who would take their other half back after they've strayed, but the relationship has never been the same afterwards.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Did I miss something? I don't think it went off topic, all about cheating here.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
I know what you are saying BM. Its a difficult one and when I said I would be an A - I was shooting from the heart rather than the head. You are absolutely right that it might be throwing too much away for a moment of madness and maybe if/when the times comes I would try and get over it (as there is a kid involved) but the immediate thought is to say adios.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Children are very receptive. Staying together for the sake of a child is not the right answer, plus later on the children can feel guilty because of it.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
JoeTGF wrote:I know what you are saying BM. Its a difficult one and when I said I would be an A - I was shooting from the heart rather than the head. You are absolutely right that it might be throwing too much away for a moment of madness and maybe if/when the times comes I would try and get over it (as there is a kid involved) but the immediate thought is to say adios.


Yes, things have to thought thro' at times like this. It is very easy to make the wrong decision when you have been badly hurt. Best to leave it a while and see if things can be worked out, than make the wrong decision, whatever it may be, and regret it.
Chocs, I wouldn't recommend anyone staying together for the sake of a child. What i'm saying is that all things have to be considered. Some people can rise above their partners mistakes and go on to have very happy lives, some can't. I still say there are worse things that can happen to you than your partner playing away.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
Oh ! and I thought we were talking about the TV show with all the recent talk of shows from joes.
My bad...moving along :D
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
JoeTGF wrote:If your partner cheated on you (sleeps with another man/woman) - would you
(a) leave them
(b) give them another chance
(c) depends on circumstances


definitely "a", but before leaving I will try my best to give him a good lesson! :twisted:
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Re: Cheaters Nov 28, 2010
c.

If it is something resembling a ONS, no problemo. When feelings would come to the fore though, it would be a completely different story.
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Re: Cheaters Nov 29, 2010
Having been the victim, there is no choice:

Dump them!

In a big hole.

8) 8) 8)

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Re: Cheaters Nov 29, 2010
Dubai Knight wrote:Having been the victim, there is no choice:

Dump them!

In a big hole.

8) 8) 8)

Knight

Ha ha ha! Loved the big hole!
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Re: Cheaters Nov 29, 2010
Hmm , this would depend on how vested you are in the person

If done by spouse - WALK
If done by LTR - WALK
If done by "that hot chick" who you laid - Huh ? what ?

Oh yea, and if it did happen, then it means that it was bound to happen to begin with
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Re: Cheaters Nov 29, 2010
Dubai Knight wrote:Having been the victim, there is no choice:

Dump them!

In a big hole.

8) 8) 8)

Knight


So how many are in that big hole DK?
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Re: Cheaters Nov 30, 2010
zubber wrote:Hmm , this would depend on how vested you are in the person

If done by spouse - WALK
If done by LTR - WALK
If done by "that hot chick" who you laid - Huh ? what ?

Oh yea, and if it did happen, then it means that it was bound to happen to begin with


On the last one I agree it was bound to happen - you can't blame the girl for moving on and servicing the next customer :D
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Re: Cheaters Nov 30, 2010
I might be very faithful.. and then suddenly cheat.. but not for the sake of cheating it is just sometimes a human being is weak towards temptations ... so i could regret and never ever cheat again.. i think it differs from a person to another person.. i believe the most faithful guy or girl in the world could cheat in some tempting situations.. BUT if a some one is caught cheating u better leave him or her. becoz there will be no trust anymore, and you will keep recalling it in your mind whenever any small thing happens.. u will simply live in HELL
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Re: Cheaters Nov 30, 2010
I'd choose another option... Ask if I can have someone on the side too! :D
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Re: Cheaters Nov 30, 2010
"Tit for Tat" principles is a bad idea to practice in relationships, things will get real ugly real fast !, someone has to throw in the towel if one ever hopes to cover any ground.
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Re: Cheaters Dec 01, 2010
Bora Bora wrote:
Dubai Knight wrote:Having been the victim, there is no choice:

Dump them!

In a big hole.

8) 8) 8)

Knight


So how many are in that big hole DK?


Its a shallow grave...

8) 8) 8)

Knight

Filled with shallow people.
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Re: Cheaters Dec 01, 2010
Dubai Knight wrote:
Bora Bora wrote:
Dubai Knight wrote:Having been the victim, there is no choice:

Dump them!

In a big hole.

8) 8) 8)

Knight


So how many are in that big hole DK?


Its a shallow grave...

8) 8) 8)

Knight



Filled with shallow people. :wink:
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Re: Cheaters Dec 01, 2010
yikes ! , eessh that was below the belt
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Re: Cheaters Dec 06, 2010
Chocoholic wrote:Ditch them! Once a cheater, always a cheater!




"Very true"
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