Arnie
I would like to address some of the points you have made about me and I would rather they were on the forum than send you a PM. I see you say all PM’s are confidential but I am happy for everyone to read what I have to say. If this incurs another ban, then so be it. I do have to say that you message ‘take a break, next time it will be 7 days’ rather aggressive, you obviously have a problem with me personally and I’ll address that later in this post.
You state one of the reasons that you banned me was for calling DDS a name. The fact that it was done light-heartedly, followed by a big smiley face seems to have gone over your head, but I realise that there is more to it than that, but you have stated this as one of the reasons for the banning. If this is so then please can you explain why DDS was not banned for referring to me as ‘Chubs’, why VW was not banned for calling me a Fat Northern Bird and why Sage refers to me as Big Mama ? As none of these characters knows me personally I have to assume that they picked these names to cause the maximum hurt to a female, as it is rather a sore point to be thought of as fat. In a normal person this may have caused some distress but fortunately for me, I’m not the run of the mill female. DDS just jumped on to the bandwagon, but never once did I complain or send you a PM, rather took his name calling with a pinch of salt. I see DDS is now claiming that it’s ok to call friends names. I must have missed his bonding with Drew, who he refers to as ‘the C0ck’.
I note today that Sage is still referring to me as Big Mama. Why has he not been banned for name calling? It appears that it is acceptable for others and moderators to name call but not me. If I were to call Sage a name in response would this be acceptable? I only say this for clarification as I grew out of name calling in Year 6.
From the very beginning Sage has endeavoured to make my time on DF as uncomfortable as possible, starting with ‘who is the most interesting newbie’ to his continuous pathetic references to me in ‘next person continues the story’. Is this really how a moderator should act? I must say though, this is one of the things that I liked about DF, the mods were just as bad as everyone else, so there was no moderation. Now you want to raise the game but how do you moderate when you are no better than the posters?
Now I will come to the real reason I believe I was banned and that is because I hurt a nerve with you when I called you a fool. I’m not really a name caller but in this case I made an exception I still think it rather foolish to pull people up for something you do yourself. Have you forgotten your little slip into pettiness and squabbling over the JBR community thing. You even started your very own thread and copied links to it. Is this not the squabbling and pettiness you are criticising others for? I know it’s not me being over sensitive as a mutual friend of ours sought to take you to task over your treatment of me and even sent me one of those PMs you refer to. You failed to admit you were a frequent poster on that forum and when I revealed it, you totally went off on one and threw your teddy in the corner, calling me frustrated for not knowing your user name, you thought this highly amusing that you knew mine and I didn’t know yours, pettiness creeping in again?
So there you go, I firmly believe that you banning me is a personal thing, I know you will come back with a firm denial but the evidence is there. I have been called, on a constant basis, much worse than what you accuse me of, but no-one has ever been reprimanded. Only once has ever anybody ever had the guts to offer me an apology for something they posted about me and I told him there was absolutely no need to apologise. I ask for no apologies nor do I offer any. This is an internet forum and everyone is free to say what they think. If you want to moderate, then carry on, but as MJ would say, start with the man in the mirror, and your mate, Sage. You may then earn the credibility you so obviously crave.