Hey people, this is an interesting article about relationship phases. Please share do u agree that these stages exist and do u have a memory of any stage to share?
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Flying Dutchman wrote:The following incident made me understand women a bit more:
*FD promised to make diner for the wife
*7 pm wife comes home, but FD forgot to make dinner
*Wife is angry
*FD realizes their is a problem and goes straight to the solution solving
*FD runs outside and gets some take-away that he knows the wife likes
*When coming home again, FD thinks wife will be happy again, as the original problem seems to be solved
*But the wife is now even more angry. Apparantly she didn't mind so much that dinner wasn't ready, but more that FD didn' think about it. She just wanted attention and to feel somebody cares about her and understands her. Instead FD ran away to get some food.
Dubai Knight wrote:Well admittedly there have only been a couple of total nutters!
Problems seem to come when they start thinking that, because I am with them, that they 'own' me. That they are able to dictate actions and requirements. Er...no. I do what I want, when I want.
If that involves getting on a motorbike and disappearing for 3 months on an adventure to Beijing, then this seems fair to me. I don't need them to be there or even to care how I am. I am fine. It seems to be a problem for them, even if they know I am going to do it. Unlike some, I don't just dream of things...I do them!
Knight
cami wrote:LOL.. with all due respect Knight.. you're a man: how complicated can you be?? food, s.e.x., work, sleep, sports, drink, that's about it...
Dubai Knight wrote:cami wrote:LOL.. with all due respect Knight.. you're a man: how complicated can you be?? food, s.e.x., work, sleep, sports, drink, that's about it...
Not quite the mix I like!
I am the one who cooks. Always.
I hardly sleep.
My sports are 'alternative'.
My drinking is highly refined and comes with the proviso of 'Premier Grand Cru'.
Work can often be done from home and is highly 'creative'.
So that only leaves one category left to define...see point 2!
So what is the difference between these classifications and those for a girl? Apart from shopping, these all apply to the female gender too...
Knight
Tom Jones wrote:Dubai Knight wrote:cami wrote:LOL.. with all due respect Knight.. you're a man: how complicated can you be?? food, s.e.x., work, sleep, sports, drink, that's about it...
Not quite the mix I like!
I am the one who cooks. Always.
I hardly sleep.
My sports are 'alternative'.
My drinking is highly refined and comes with the proviso of 'Premier Grand Cru'.
Work can often be done from home and is highly 'creative'.
So that only leaves one category left to define...see point 2!
So what is the difference between these classifications and those for a girl? Apart from shopping, these all apply to the female gender too...
Knight
4 out of 5... and they still don't like you??
Well... they must've been "loonies" before you even met them. You need to do a better job pre-screening them Buddy!!!!!
Dubai Knight wrote:As for being self absorbed, well not really. It's all a question of perspective. If a girl is attracted to a guy because of what he does, the way he acts and the lifestyle he chooses for himself...why then attempt to change him and mould him to the way she thinks he should be? It changes the very thing she initially sees as attractive in him.
Flying Dutchman wrote:Dubai Knight wrote:As for being self absorbed, well not really. It's all a question of perspective. If a girl is attracted to a guy because of what he does, the way he acts and the lifestyle he chooses for himself...why then attempt to change him and mould him to the way she thinks he should be? It changes the very thing she initially sees as attractive in him.
Agree 100%, but unfortunately thats whats happening a lot. There is huge difference though between wanting to change somebody and asking somebody to be considered.
Bora Bora wrote:What changes are you talking about?
Bora Bora wrote:If you stop and think about it, I'm sure your wife made changes to make you happy, even if in small ways.
Dillon wrote:I was advised many Years ago to read a book about relationships and it was the best peer advice I was ever given and still today, I refer to that publication by John Gray, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, read and understand the content of that book and you will start to understand how your partner perceives you and just exactly how much you really don’t know about the opposite gender.!
Stages in Love Relationships
Gary Brainerd