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A brave Saudi woman! Isn't she????
TJ
"My Four Husbands and I:" Saudi Journalist Argues Women Should Have Right to Practice Polygamy Like Men!!
The headline "My Four Husbands and I" would give any reader a moments pause. In an Egyptian paper? A moment's pause, condemnation, and fury (and just a little bit of praise from a select few).
Such was the response to Saudi journalist Nadine Bedair's controversial article published in the Egyptian independent daily Al Masry Al Youm that argues women, like men, should have the right practice polygamy.
If Muslim men are entitled to marry up to four wives, why can't women have four husbands? Bedair dares to ask.
"I have long questioned why it is men have a monopoly on this right. No one has been able to explain to me convincingly why it is I'm deprived of the right to polyandry," says Bedair.
If Bedair had it her way she would, "... choose four, five or even nine men, just as my wildest imagination shall choose. I’ll pick them with different shapes and sizes, one of them will be dark and the other will be blond. ... They will be chosen from different backgrounds, religions, races and nations."
To those who say men have greater sexual appetites or that women cannot handle more than one man she counters, "I say that women who cheat on their husbands and the 'sellers of love' [i.e. prostitutes] do much more."
For those who stay faithful in their marriages she argues it is at a high cost. "In fact, she [a wife] might have not felt one ounce of pleasure since the very first night of this arranged marriage. But traditions and the clerics force her to stay at home and shut up."
Bedair ends her article with a powerful punch - If women cannot be afforded the same right as men in marriages to take multiple spouses then the "map of marriage" should be redrawn completely.
As you can imagine Bedair's comments have come under fire by many conservative Muslims who claim the article is inflammatory, sexually provocative, and anti-Islamic. A Muslim authority in Egypt, Sheikh Mohamed Gama’i, lashed out at Bedair saying that she "ought to be stopped" and that "no woman has the right to attack our traditions in this manner." An Egyptian member of parliament has even filed a lawsuit against the newspaper that ran Bedair's article.
On the other hand, some have taken Bedair's piece as a criticism of the practice of polygamy and believe it was written to highlight how poorly some women are treated by their husbands when they take on additional wives.
Saudi blogger Ahmed Al-Omran of the popular blog Saudi Jeans is one of these people:
"People who attacked Nadine [Bedair] missed the point entirely...She was just trying to criticize polygamy by putting men in the shoes of women who accept to be part of such marriages. ... I think one of the good outcomes of Nadine's article is that it has rekindled the debate on women's issues in the country, especially those concerning how judges, and the legal system in general, treat women," he told the LA Times in an e-mail conversation.
Well, what do you think? Did Bedair write the article to help women gain the right to practice polygamy or were her intentions to highlight women's rights issues among Muslim women?
Either way I think Bedair deserves a round of applause for challenging such a traditional Muslim male privilege and demanding that women be treated equally and fairly in such a public way. She has definitely sparked a long overdue discussion – one that would not exist had Bedair not braved the pen.
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