How do you deal with a person who hates you for the sake of hating you? She is not my mother in law yet and if its up to her, she will never be. We met a few times only, but the poison coming from her is becoming too much.
1st it was at the beginning of the relation, when he took me home with some other people and we all went there as friends. Shortly after, she learned I was more than a friend and the 1st chance she got, she literally jumped me - all the colors of the rainbow, trying to humiliate, emmotional blackmail, crying, you name it.
since than hatered just keeps coming, I cannot step in their house, makes a scene if it happens that I sit in her son's car when she is there - of course not in front of me, she has no gutts to do that, Christmas, NY's Eve, birthdays, each and every occasion she gets, she would make sure to put him on the road, just so he cannot spend time with me.
what is wrong with these kind of people? Is it that they really don't get how they are hurting their own children as well? Sometimes I wonder if such a woman loves her own son...I mean you cannot possibly call this love. And yeah, most times it takes 2, but as much as I'd want to take some blame on myself in the hopes that I've caused some of this, hence could fix it, I cannot. I haven't lifted a finger against her.
So here are my 2 questions:
1. Can a woman like her ever be turned around? Is there something one can do to change this hatred?
2. Is there any chance with a man who has such a mother? Or she will end up winning, even with the cost of ending up with a 40-50 year old single son