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Bora Bora wrote:Well I can speak from personal experience. When I married, my husband was muslim, I a non-practicing Christian. I totally respected his religion and beliefs. I brought many of his religious practices and his culture into my life. Although non-muslim I made it a point to comply and respect his religious practices. Because I did not practice my faith did not mean he should not practice his.

After 4 years of marriage, I made the decision to convert to Islam. I knew I had all the basics that Islam asked of an individual so conversion was not hard for me.

What we do outside of religious practice does not hurt anyone and it is on us. I would rather answer to a higher power for drinking alcohol than having to answer for mistreating other people, or for being greedy, or for getting through life based on lies.

And FYI when I came to the UAE I was never so disappointed in the way Islam was NOT practiced by Muslims - in particular, locals. There is such hipocrasy in the UAE. What sickens me during Ramadan is the way people eat as if it was their last meal, laden their tables with food, and then throw out what remains. During Ramadan I keep it very simple and try to eat at home as much as possible and cook just enough to be eaten. Anything left over is eaten the next nite. We invite people to break fast with us and I keep it just as simple. If they want fancy, then they could go to a restaurant.

When I would fast at work, Saudi and UAE locals would be having their lunch delivered or drinking coffee and they all had the same excuse - I have a bad stomach. In Cairo I see a much more stronger, pure and true practice of the faith than I do here.

Sorry, got carried away here.

Back to romance.

Bora Bora wrote:

rudeboy wrote:

Bora Bora wrote:

rudeboy wrote:ok. when you say arabs do you mean the arab christians or arab muslims?

If it is Arab Muslims.

We follow what our holly book ‘the Quran’ says. The Quran tells us that its forbidden for a muslim man or woman to marry a non-muslim person even if he/she liked him, except if that person converted to Islam. It’s a rule which we have to follow. It is for the benefit of that muslim. coz getting engaged to someone who doesn’t know anything about islam may inject him/her with thoughts or whatever that may harm his/her faith. Let take some examples, could you tell me how could a muslim person live in the same house with a non-muslim person in Ramadan while one is taking his daily meals, the other stands watching him/her with a starving stomach. And while One want to make love, the other can’t simply because he’s fasting.And while One doesn’t drink wine, the other has the fridge full of wine bottles and so on. It’s rediculous, how could they co-exist. One of them must join the other’s believes and this is what islam is warning us about. But if a muslim person didn’t want to follow the quran rule,well, it’s up to him. Allah will have his fair justice upon him.

rules are not meant to be broken. quran and islam are not double standards. in quran and islam men & women are equal.

Well I can speak from personal experience. When I married, my husband was muslim, I a non-practicing Christian. I totally respected his religion and beliefs. I brought many of his religious practices and his culture into my life. Although non-muslim I made it a point to comply and respect his religious practices. Because I did not practice my faith did not mean he should not practice his.

After 4 years of marriage, I made the decision to convert to Islam. I knew I had all the basics that Islam asked of an individual so conversion was not hard for me.

What we do outside of religious practice does not hurt anyone and it is on us. I would rather answer to a higher power for drinking alcohol than having to answer for mistreating other people, or for being greedy, or for getting through life based on lies.

And FYI when I came to the UAE I was never so disappointed in the way Islam was NOT practiced by Muslims - in particular, locals. There is such hipocrasy in the UAE. What sickens me during Ramadan is the way people eat as if it was their last meal, laden their tables with food, and then throw out what remains. During Ramadan I keep it very simple and try to eat at home as much as possible and cook just enough to be eaten. Anything left over is eaten the next nite. We invite people to break fast with us and I keep it just as simple. If they want fancy, then they could go to a restaurant.

When I would fast at work, Saudi and UAE locals would be having their lunch delivered or drinking coffee and they all had the same excuse - I have a bad stomach. In Cairo I see a much more stronger, pure and true practice of the faith than I do here.

Sorry, got carried away here.

Back to romance.

what saudis and uae ppl get up to is up to them. not all muslims are the same. if someone is committing a sin he or she will be punished by god.

so never think what other muslims are doing, always think how clean your heart is and how truely a muslim u r.

You have an amazing ability to overlook facts that prove you wrong. And as for answering to God, I highly doubt that when it comes your time God will be holding a blank page with your name on it.

dresden wrote:

Bora Bora wrote:Well I can speak from personal experience. When I married, my husband was muslim, I a non-practicing Christian. I totally respected his religion and beliefs. I brought many of his religious practices and his culture into my life. Although non-muslim I made it a point to comply and respect his religious practices. Because I did not practice my faith did not mean he should not practice his.

After 4 years of marriage, I made the decision to convert to Islam. I knew I had all the basics that Islam asked of an individual so conversion was not hard for me.

What we do outside of religious practice does not hurt anyone and it is on us. I would rather answer to a higher power for drinking alcohol than having to answer for mistreating other people, or for being greedy, or for getting through life based on lies.

And FYI when I came to the UAE I was never so disappointed in the way Islam was NOT practiced by Muslims - in particular, locals. There is such hipocrasy in the UAE. What sickens me during Ramadan is the way people eat as if it was their last meal, laden their tables with food, and then throw out what remains. During Ramadan I keep it very simple and try to eat at home as much as possible and cook just enough to be eaten. Anything left over is eaten the next nite. We invite people to break fast with us and I keep it just as simple. If they want fancy, then they could go to a restaurant.

When I would fast at work, Saudi and UAE locals would be having their lunch delivered or drinking coffee and they all had the same excuse - I have a bad stomach. In Cairo I see a much more stronger, pure and true practice of the faith than I do here.

Sorry, got carried away here.

Back to romance.

Excellent post.
Interesting perspective, especially from someone who has been on both sides of the religious-table.

I'm not exactly a 'non-practicing' catholic as I do quietly say my nightly prayers, but I don't visit the Church nearly as often as I should.
I have some serious questions regarding the religion that cannot be answered by anyone but my maker. Hence I simply focus my prayers toward "God".

Having said that, I have a huge amount of respect for the Muslim religion and certain people's dedication toward it. During Ramadan, I observed many more people fast and follow the rules than I observed during Lent.

Either way, I'm off on a tangent. Getting back on track...

I'm intrigued by the Muslim religion but not by the hypocricsy. I would consider aaccepting my future wife's religion, but I would accept the same from her ...

rudeboy wrote:ok you are a catholic and lets say for example a devotee muslim who prays 5 times, fasts etc etc. when you guys have kids will they be muslims or catholics?

you said you will accept your wifes religion and you accpet the same from her. thats all good and easy to say. but when you guys have kids i think you gonna have one big argument on the religion which is right for your kids. thats why Islam says that a wife and a husband should be off the same religion.

another question. during fasting when your wife is fasting and you dont fast. you come home really hungry you have been ordering for the past 7 days and you want something home cook. are you going to get your wife to cook something for you while she is fasting?

dresden wrote:

rudeboy wrote:ok you are a catholic and lets say for example a devotee muslim who prays 5 times, fasts etc etc. when you guys have kids will they be muslims or catholics?

you said you will accept your wifes religion and you accpet the same from her. thats all good and easy to say. but when you guys have kids i think you gonna have one big argument on the religion which is right for your kids. thats why Islam says that a wife and a husband should be off the same religion.

another question. during fasting when your wife is fasting and you dont fast. you come home really hungry you have been ordering for the past 7 days and you want something home cook. are you going to get your wife to cook something for you while she is fasting?

Please think before you write...

1. Obviously if I were to marry a woman who was NOT part of my religion, these things would be discussed BEFORE we got married. For the record, I would allow my children to CHOOSE, and support their choices regardless. But thats just me.

2. When my wife is fasting, out of respect, I would fast as well at home or eat outside the house.

3. If I were hungry for a home cooked meal after 7 days while she is fasting, I would suck it up and continue to eat take out, because its a sacrifice I chose to make when I married her.
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Not everyone is like me, but no two people are alike.

worldguy wrote:dresden very well written. I agree to the same. If two individuals love each other, then these things are a small price to pay. Its easy to respect each other's space and then grow from there.

People get too stuck up on religion, nationality, financial balance without realising that these things only provide temporary satisfaction. At the end its true love that provides the maximum happiness. Rest all chase the wrong things and realise when it is too late to fix the wrong step taken by them.

worldguy wrote:The kid can be both. Why does he have to chose. They can learn from both the religions. Most of the people who are stuck in their careers can hardly devote time and are anyway not religious. Their parents have accepted that and thus they will just be a multi cultural family.

portland wrote:inshalla

Sharp wrote:Well! Perhap's it's offten we see arab's women only hangout with arab guy's...BUT... it's not that quite true!.... i know guy's who have arab's female their good freind's!..... even my Cozin living a beautifull life with is arab wife!.... So it's not an issue!!....

worldguy wrote:

Sharp wrote:Well! Perhap's it's offten we see arab's women only hangout with arab guy's...BUT... it's not that quite true!.... i know guy's who have arab's female their good freind's!..... even my Cozin living a beautifull life with is arab wife!.... So it's not an issue!!....

Guess that will eventually change. Every country goes through a cycle and UAE is going through one as well. Where is your cousin from?

asimkh wrote::) interseted topic...

I lived in Dubai and Muscat...

I find that Arab guys having all the fun or may be dating no muslims or
no arabs but i find them more flirty and out going plus i think they are good and rich@

however, if some non arab guy wants to date arab gal, its pretty difficult
because mostly arab gals not prefer to talk to them especially asian guys
but if you are western then they do get in touch with you

and if you go out with arab gal dating or even coffee everyone watches
you especially in middle east but europe or other asian countries i find
arab girls dating sometime non arab guys

but in dubai due to attitude plus religion n cultural difference
you might get in touch online but reality will be different:)

karans wrote:would you care to elaborate?

rookiebot wrote:whaaat!! ... ive been in uae all my life ... if worldguy is true i'd be freakin frankenstein by the time i reach my home country ...

Bora Bora wrote:

rudeboy wrote:ok. when you say arabs do you mean the arab christians or arab muslims?

If it is Arab Muslims.

We follow what our holly book ‘the Quran’ says. The Quran tells us that its forbidden for a muslim man or woman to marry a non-muslim person even if he/she liked him, except if that person converted to Islam. It’s a rule which we have to follow. It is for the benefit of that muslim. coz getting engaged to someone who doesn’t know anything about islam may inject him/her with thoughts or whatever that may harm his/her faith. Let take some examples, could you tell me how could a muslim person live in the same house with a non-muslim person in Ramadan while one is taking his daily meals, the other stands watching him/her with a starving stomach. And while One want to make love, the other can’t simply because he’s fasting.And while One doesn’t drink wine, the other has the fridge full of wine bottles and so on. It’s rediculous, how could they co-exist. One of them must join the other’s believes and this is what islam is warning us about. But if a muslim person didn’t want to follow the quran rule,well, it’s up to him. Allah will have his fair justice upon him.

rules are not meant to be broken. quran and islam are not double standards. in quran and islam men & women are equal.

Well I can speak from personal experience. When I married, my husband was muslim, I a non-practicing Christian. I totally respected his religion and beliefs. I brought many of his religious practices and his culture into my life. Although non-muslim I made it a point to comply and respect his religious practices. Because I did not practice my faith did not mean he should not practice his.

After 4 years of marriage, I made the decision to convert to Islam. I knew I had all the basics that Islam asked of an individual so conversion was not hard for me.

What we do outside of religious practice does not hurt anyone and it is on us. I would rather answer to a higher power for drinking alcohol than having to answer for mistreating other people, or for being greedy, or for getting through life based on lies.

And FYI when I came to the UAE I was never so disappointed in the way Islam was NOT practiced by Muslims - in particular, locals. There is such hipocrasy in the UAE. What sickens me during Ramadan is the way people eat as if it was their last meal, laden their tables with food, and then throw out what remains. During Ramadan I keep it very simple and try to eat at home as much as possible and cook just enough to be eaten. Anything left over is eaten the next nite. We invite people to break fast with us and I keep it just as simple. If they want fancy, then they could go to a restaurant.

When I would fast at work, Saudi and UAE locals would be having their lunch delivered or drinking coffee and they all had the same excuse - I have a bad stomach. In Cairo I see a much more stronger, pure and true practice of the faith than I do here.

Sorry, got carried away here.

Back to romance.

karans wrote:

rookiebot wrote:whaaat!! ... ive been in uae all my life ... if worldguy is true i'd be freakin frankenstein by the time i reach my home country ...

I searched on the internet and found that consultants are raking in my helping Europeans settle down from the effects of UAE. its because they adapted to the things here, which are lot different from things back in their country. This does surprise me, as I thought they would bring their culture and style here, but just brought their frustrations and constant cribbing. This is not how they are in Europe. The sun does take a toll.