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Hi guys ,
this is my first post in dxbf and am happy to write and be here , but i have to involve you with my problem .
Actually its more personal problem . It has happend when my brother and friends started to have girlfriends which they referred to be the LOVE they were seeking for Along time . Well good for them , but I started to realize that I am alone , I still dont have a person that I will be talking to for hours about silly things , I didnt find love , actually I need to find a person so I feel love .
The main thing is that my brother is younger than me and am 18.5 yrs .
Shouldnt I be the first ? Am really a good looking guy and funny .
What is wrong with me ... am really disappointed from myself .

^^^ Buddy…Relax!!…we all had this feeling one way or another…I personally did a very long time ago!!

There might be a lot of things which is wrong & there might not be anything!!!...but two things I’m definite about is the lack of self confidence & neediness

If you can’t find a date doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you, it might be the girls you met!!...so start trusting your self & search again

And who said you NEED to find a person to love...if you didn’t find one are you going to die?!!….Obviously Nooo…so the more you act above needing the relation with girls the more they will feel attracted to you

Hmmm…are you doing you homework by taking your approaches?!!

You sound ummm , right ...

but if you were me you couldnt take it , I mean everyone is having someone there instead of me . I have looked for many girls , religios , virgins , non-virgin , fat , nerds , sporty , funny . but none of them stayed for more than a week , I mean I feel like girls dont take me seriously .
I have started to ask my friends girls to intrduce me to thier sisters or friends but I wont count on it .

its just

I mean everyone is having someone there instead of me

Don’t compare your self to others, compare your self to your self ONLY

I have looked for many girls , religios , virgins , non-virgin , fat , nerds , sporty , funny

Don’t just go for whatever is available, choose what you want and go for it!...btw knowing what you want and going for it is a trait that CHARMS women!!

I mean I feel like girls dont take me seriously

Hmmm…I think we found the problem!!...it seems you are taking things too serious and you are trying to push into a relation very fast…that’s what makes women run away!!...take it easy and have fun…enjoy your time with them as if you are spending time with one of your best friends…let THEM start pushing!!…and when they do…push them away!!... “YES I SAID IT!!”…push them away…that will most probably make them crave for you!!...not in bad manners offcores…but in a funny teasy way

Forever if you are gonna act like a bi.tch...In my opinion girls don't like people who whine or are 'too' sensitive. This attitude you are showing here probably shows when you are with a girl.

So all I can say grow some uhmm round things and act more like a man.

Algy wrote:The main thing is that my brother is younger than me and am 18.5 yrs .
.

18.5 = 18 AND SIX MONTHS
OR
18.5 = 18 AND FIVE MONTHS
THAT IS THE QUESTION..
COME OOOOON BE A MAN ABOUT IT....
WHERE ALL THE GOOD MEN ARE GONE????????

dubai beat wrote:

Algy wrote:The main thing is that my brother is younger than me and am 18.5 yrs .
.

18.5 = 18 AND SIX MONTHS
OR
18.5 = 18 AND FIVE MONTHS
THAT IS THE QUESTION..
COME OOOOON BE A MAN ABOUT IT....
WHERE ALL THE GOOD MEN ARE GONE????????

.. 18 and five months , but what that has to be with my manhood ?

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MC
... thats really ,,, okie so you think I act like you explained .. .
am not too (what you called ) , am just taking a half of that and that ...
Girls dont want a sensless monster :S
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blue226
thats too hard , I mean I finally got a gilr then push her .
i will try when i got one

Oh give me a break, you're only young, and trust me if you go looking for it you'll never find it. Yes you come across as whining and wimpy - not attractive for most girls, we like our men to be men! That's what they mean by talking about your manhood, so grow a set of balls, pucker up and get out there.

you just talk so easily , Then show me where to look.
Intrduce me to someone , I couldnt find a dating agency so yea .
look for me

Take it easy guys…he is just a cub...who might grow to be a lion!!

Now don’t be fooled kid…defending you doesn’t mean I’m supporting you!!…they are RIGHT about what they said…but I think your behavior is acceptable for you age…not for too long thow!!…The earlier you turn to a masculine man the better.

you just talk so easily , Then show me where to look.
Intrduce me to someone , I couldnt find a dating agency so yea .
look for me

This post almost threw you out my cliff!!…but lets give it a last try!!

As I told you earlier… “Choose what you want & go for it”…First decide what kind of girls you prefer & when you do!!...imagine yourself in her shoes & ask yourself...where she will go, what she’ll do,…etc!

Simply!!…if you want a sporty girl…look in GYMs, if you want a stylish girl look in Shopping malls!

If you didn’t do the work then you don’t deserve the results, Dating Agencies are good…but obviously none of them will promise a SUCCESSFUL date!!

Now jump from your seat and start working on these four areas, your look, your inner game, your techniques & your social activities and never stop working until you are living the realty that you always wanted

Good luck!

Nice post Blue!

Dude....u r 18. hu da hell looks 4 lurve at dat age. Go have a nice time.....check em out.....get the numbers rollin'............you can wait like a decade to fall in love..........wats da hurry......n ya....quit da whimperin n mushy stuff.....no gurl will want to be with u.....
ok....1 advice. wen (if) u go out with da chick u dig.....it shd seem dat u know stuff...uve been around....know wat drinks 2 order (flamin 1's i suggest......if u r ordering steaks....know ur cut (plz dont order well done).........n make sure da hostess knows u....n lastly, dont sit/stand/act as if ur undies r starched.......be casual......have a sense of humour. good luck. by the looks of it. u r gonna need it....

And this advice coming from a guy who can't post in anything but SMS shorthand - ENGLISH PLEASE!!!!

Well I do beg your pardon! I will try my best to write legible posts in future! - mod

That should have been your reply, because pea brain, if you stopped to think for a second, you might realise that for alot of people on the forum, their first language isn't English, so you're only making it harder to make yourself understood.

I bet you're one of these loser teens who would write their exam paper in such a way, and then wonder why you failed!

50+ - hahahahaha yeah right! I'm more in touch with the 'youf' of today than you'll ever be

Algy wrote:you just talk so easily , Then show me where to look.
Intrduce me to someone , I couldnt find a dating agency so yea .
look for me

Wanting a gf to make you happy is a symptom that you arent happy with who you are. Well I normally dont post long posts but this is going to be long one cos your response "where do I look?" just clicked me. Here is a small story" A beggar always used to beg sitting on the box and one day a man stopped.
Beggar: Spare some change?
Man: I have nothing to give you.
Man: What are you sitting on?
Beggar: Nothing. Just a box.
Man: Ever looked inside?
Beggar: What's the point? There is nothing there.
Man: Have a look inside.
The beggar managed to pry open the lid and was surprised to find the box filled with gold.

Same here we cant just give you a girl, money or phone number of a woman but we could give you advice to look inside you and improve your personality.

I agree with blue's post but reading Algy's post there is more that he needs than dating advice.

You may fill yourself with money , girls etc. but like drug it will only give temporary relief from reality. Money may come and go same with girls will come and go but you will always be with REAL you. Yes, you may get girls with money , looks and fame but this is only temporary. To get right kind of girls to be attracted to you and be with you first have to LOVE yourself (not being narcissist bastard). You gotta have a worthy goal or a goal which you will do anything to get (other than women) something like becoming a doctor and helping ppl in third world countries.

As you pursue your goal and overcome obstacles you will feel the burning confidence inside you. This is what is called improving your personality, inner world or inner game. Remember you may be butt - fu* ugly or penniless but women are strongly attracted to a man with ambitions, man on a mission. This is the foundation or skeleton of your personality and stronger your inner world or ambition less likely you will be affected by losing money or a girl said shit about you etc. It will appear like a shield. I have seen many men appear rough and tough but their world just crumbles and they cry like puppies the moment they lose the girl, money etc.. If you have strong personality you just dont give a shit and girls (especially the high class ones) will sense that. BECOME PEOPLE MAGNET and you will attract right kind of people in you life. Initially, discard all your negative friends and make friends with positive ppl.

This self-development wont be achieved in a night or two. In this MTV culture where instant gratification is propagated, you may think wearing those shoes, pants or pheromones will attract women. Maybe those shallow ones but not quality ones. To attract the real deal you gotta convey your personality in an interesting way. This is called outer world. Your outer world comprises your looks, style, social skills etc. Each area may take sometime to develop but if you get a mentor he/she may accelerate you progress. I dont know if there is any in Dubai but there are many in Western world. There are separate skills required with women. When you have grown into REAL man these skills will automatically come to you.

Action is the link between your inner world and outer world. Start talking to everybody women, men , old men , women etc. Just say hi, talk about current issues , make them feel good, smile , spread positive energy and ppl will like you for who you are. I know Dubai is conservative place and I found kinda hard getting to know ppl bcos back in Canada everybody knew me the janitor, gym, cashier, my neighbour and my neighbour's cat. I was the guy ppl loved to hang out. This is the thing most ppl especially girls look when you are in party. Are you the guy who ppl want to know at the party or the creepy guy standing with Marlyn Manson look and drink across his chest. Are you that social guy?

Was I always like this? No. I was reserved and had close circle of friends. Everything changed one day when I met with misfortune and went "why me?" Every adversity contains a seed of equal or greater benefit. That misfortune awakened me from my stupor. i searched and searched for answers until I got them and I never looked back. It was a very hard journey and I am still continuing. Looking back I am glad that I started.

To get you started read self-development books. I would recommend
"Awaken the Giant Within" by Anthony Robbins. Get it at bookplus or magrudys (where I hangout). Be focused by writing your goals down and tracking it. I wish someone would have advised me about this stuff when I was in your age.

Remember Nature has all the answers but you gotta ask yourself right questions.

Men are born ignorant, not stupid. They are made stupid by education..

the kid wanted an advice ..thats all


no need for daing agency...!!
dont worry ..just go to mall of emirates ..and u will find what you are looking for

that easy..

desert surfer
OMG , I have never felt that some one will spend a time on me like that ..
your reply was very good man , I dont know what to say really .
Thanks from my heart for your time and that care you showed to me .


dubai beat
Cmon man we are not in USA or Europe , in UAE i will got caught by police if they saw me trying to talk with a girl .
There is cameras like the movie Casino
cant do

seems a cse of low morale/low self-esteem

lol, i c ur pt der

Algy wrote:

dubai beat wrote:

Algy wrote:The main thing is that my brother is younger than me and am 18.5 yrs .
.

18.5 = 18 AND SIX MONTHS
OR
18.5 = 18 AND FIVE MONTHS
THAT IS THE QUESTION..
COME OOOOON BE A MAN ABOUT IT....
WHERE ALL THE GOOD MEN ARE GONE????????

.. 18 and five months , but what that has to be with my manhood ?

18.5 is longer then 18.2 or anything less....common sense man!