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giggsy wrote:Hey. From Canada. My wife has never been to Dubai. She's a massive hometown girl. We have 2 kids. 6 months and 3.5 years. She doesn't want to move to Dubai. Expat women...how do you find it? Guys, anyone else been in a similar situation? How does the misus like being there now? What did you do to convince her? If you don't want to post stories feel free to pm me. Thanks!!
giggsy wrote:Hey. From Canada. My wife has never been to Dubai. She's a massive hometown girl. We have 2 kids. 6 months and 3.5 years. She doesn't want to move to Dubai. Expat women...how do you find it? Guys, anyone else been in a similar situation? How does the misus like being there now? What did you do to convince her? If you don't want to post stories feel free to pm me. Thanks!!
giggsy wrote:Hey. From Canada. My wife has never been to Dubai. She's a massive hometown girl. We have 2 kids. 6 months and 3.5 years. She doesn't want to move to Dubai. Expat women...how do you find it? Guys, anyone else been in a similar situation? How does the misus like being there now? What did you do to convince her? If you don't want to post stories feel free to pm me. Thanks!!
giggsy wrote:She doesn't want to move to Dubai.
Concord wrote:A thought is that she first visit and stay for a week or 2 to check it out and then decide...
mrs Robinson wrote:Thing is...expat life is not for everybody...
reviewer wrote:mrs Robinson wrote:Thing is...expat life is not for everybody...
Yes, I do agree.....then again there's no harm in trying....
mrs Robinson wrote:reviewer wrote:mrs Robinson wrote:Thing is...expat life is not for everybody...
Yes, I do agree.....then again there's no harm in trying....
and I agree with that as well...how cosy
craigindubai wrote:Time to get a new wife...
Fair chance you'll be able to trade up to a much nicer, prettier and far more supportive "trolley dolly" here in the UAE anyway.
craigindubai wrote: The way I look at it, if she doesn't want to put in the hard yards so they can build a better life for their family, well your better of finding someone more supportive of your ambitions.
mrs Robinson wrote:Apparently....you don't need to leave your wife behind to sample the delights of the trolly dolly brigade...
scarlet wrote:Sometimes a better life is not just about the money
scarlet wrote:Sometimes a better life is not just about the money
Dr.D wrote:craigindubai wrote: The way I look at it, if she doesn't want to put in the hard yards so they can build a better life for their family, well your better of finding someone more supportive of your ambitions.
Or... perhaps she's better off without someone who is prepared to put their own individual 'ambitions' and money before marriage and family.
It's the 21st century... the door swings both ways. Make sure it doesn't hit you in the arse.
giggsy wrote:Well Craig...he's not here in the first place. And believe it or not, a woman can, and in this case does earn more money than her husband. So her career is one reason why she doesn't want to leave. As I said, she is a home body. We live in the same neighbourhood she's always lived in her entire life. Which means our kids get to go to a really good school and she lives four blocks away from her parents which means a nice little support system. She doesn't want to leave that for uncertainty and no support network. She also wants her kids to grow up knowing their family. All these reasons are why we are not there. My thinking though is that we're in and out in a couple of years. Dubai would never be a forever thing. I've been and personally don't think it's a place that could replace Canada on a permanent basis. But to go for a couple years while the kids are small and make some quick money...which I know is not easy these days. But with kids small and no support network we wouldn't have an extravagant lifestyle. But that's another post for another day. I already turned a move down once for her. And I'd do it again as I do have a good career here. Just checking for some insight to see. And to answer another post, me and my family are as white as can be so I don't think I'd have to worry about racism...at least like an India/Pakastani. What I do worry about is my wife being oogled (sp?) followed and looked at like a prostitute. I've heard some horror stories. I know things are different for men in that culture. Anyway, thanks for the responses everyone. I'm looking for a balance, because as one post aptly wrote, the door swings both ways.
giggsy wrote:Well Craig...he's not here in the first place. And believe it or not, a woman can, and in this case does earn more money than her husband. So her career is one reason why she doesn't want to leave. As I said, she is a home body. We live in the same neighbourhood she's always lived in her entire life. Which means our kids get to go to a really good school and she lives four blocks away from her parents which means a nice little support system. She doesn't want to leave that for uncertainty and no support network. She also wants her kids to grow up knowing their family. All these reasons are why we are not there. My thinking though is that we're in and out in a couple of years. Dubai would never be a forever thing. I've been and personally don't think it's a place that could replace Canada on a permanent basis. But to go for a couple years while the kids are small and make some quick money...which I know is not easy these days. But with kids small and no support network we wouldn't have an extravagant lifestyle. But that's another post for another day. I already turned a move down once for her. And I'd do it again as I do have a good career here. Just checking for some insight to see. And to answer another post, me and my family are as white as can be so I don't think I'd have to worry about racism...at least like an India/Pakastani. What I do worry about is my wife being oogled (sp?) followed and looked at like a prostitute. I've heard some horror stories. I know things are different for men in that culture. Anyway, thanks for the responses everyone. I'm looking for a balance, because as one post aptly wrote, the door swings both ways.
giggsy wrote:I'm very glad to hear that those stories are over exagerated. And to touch on the Indian vs. the Italian...my wife tells me horror stories of when she travelled through Italy during her college days. I think for some people, being starred at, no matter who is doing the starring, is just plain creepy. My wife is a teacher so she doesn't dress like a tollop anyway so I can't see any problems there.
Craig...the 20 years...it's been three since I turned down another opportunity in Dubai and I've been saying that since then so...I know about the 20 year angle. (I turned it down because of the job and the company three years ago...not the wife) I'm on here looking for similar experiences and different perspectives because no...the decision has not been made yet. But I'd never throw my marriage and kids away for Dubai or anywhere. Just looking for an experience for a few years. Me in advertising...my wife a teacher...we should be able to make some money and have a great time while doing it.
Thanks to everyone for their input. That's why we're here on the forum I guess!
giggsy wrote:I'm very glad to hear that those stories are over exagerated. And to touch on the Indian vs. the Italian...my wife tells me horror stories of when she travelled through Italy during her college days. I think for some people, being starred at, no matter who is doing the starring, is just plain creepy. My wife is a teacher so she doesn't dress like a tollop anyway so I can't see any problems there.
Craig...the 20 years...it's been three since I turned down another opportunity in Dubai and I've been saying that since then so...I know about the 20 year angle. (I turned it down because of the job and the company three years ago...not the wife) I'm on here looking for similar experiences and different perspectives because no...the decision has not been made yet. But I'd never throw my marriage and kids away for Dubai or anywhere. Just looking for an experience for a few years. Me in advertising...my wife a teacher...we should be able to make some money and have a great time while doing it.
Thanks to everyone for their input. That's why we're here on the forum I guess!