Chocoholic wrote:Hang on a second, so you're saying that once you're in a relationship it's OK to stop making an effort and let yourself go?
No no no no no!
You should always make an effort for your other half, my boyfriend and I always like to look nice for one another, I tell him things I'd like him to do, wear and vise versa, it makes us even more attracted to one another than we were already.
well that is not my point for sure !! what i meant ,, once the relo is at its early stages it sparkles and u feel that u r sittin on top of the world !! everything is so smooth !! u r so active, she is so active !! but then time change things ,,, it becomes rusty !! unless we both push it and work on it, it would never work !! my point is sometimes we get very dependent !! specialy ladies !! for example anything goes wrong it will end up in my list not her !! which is what causes the fights, ups&downs in the relationship !! even in families the mother would always blame the way the father raised the kid !! as if she is not in that task with him !!! got what i mean !!
being dependable is what i think creates all this headache :p !! i guess in your case choco, as u said " You should always make an effort for your other half, my boyfriend and I always like to look nice for one another, I tell him things I'd like him to do, wear and vise versa, it makes us even more attracted to one another than we were already" i'm sure that we are on the same page !! but for an extent
u dont want to end up controled by someone else no matter how much u love !!!
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