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Ok all advisors line up!!!

For Married Couple, lovers, domestic partners, answer pls.

People are in Dubai bec of money,or not. But bec of this your partner sometimes/most of the times will be working overtime or their work could be so demanding, you hardly have time for each other.

How do you deal with this????

Undertandin is the word of the day. lol, no time to have more than 1 gf..
It is a hard world... got to make time some how for your loved one

tins

I think wherever you are and however busy you are?
If you want something..or even love someone ...
You can find time...You will always put that person on your schedule and even part of your routine..

It depends on the person...and there are a lot of ways to show it to your partner...

And i think I'll be able to do this if I'll find time to have someone now..

Well we all know in the longer relationships (more than 3 months) you tend to sometimes take your partner for granted .. and thats when you might start putting them as a less priority than work or other things. So i think its a good idea to keep yourself in check about your priorities because you might wake up one day and your partner is feels very unappreciated and might even leave you ..

zam wrote:Ok all advisors line up!!!

For Married Couple, lovers, domestic partners, answer pls.

People are in Dubai bec of money,or not. But bec of this your partner sometimes/most of the times will be working overtime or their work could be so demanding, you hardly have time for each other.

How do you deal with this????

sometimes is good to miss each other...so i guess u have to be patient and even if the time u spend with each other is not as much as u wish, make it quality time!

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alexandra wrote:

zam wrote:Ok all advisors line up!!!

For Married Couple, lovers, domestic partners, answer pls.

People are in Dubai bec of money,or not. But bec of this your partner sometimes/most of the times will be working overtime or their work could be so demanding, you hardly have time for each other.

How do you deal with this????

sometimes is good to miss each other...so i guess u have to be patient and even if the time u spend with each other is not as much as u wish, make it quality time!

yup i agree totally, we do agree in alot of things girl The more they are away the better you get time for yourself and friends and miss each other. In relation or marriage people get bored facing each other 24/7 I like my space that why iam looking for part time marriage

sara_uk wrote:

alexandra wrote:

zam wrote:Ok all advisors line up!!!

For Married Couple, lovers, domestic partners, answer pls.

People are in Dubai bec of money,or not. But bec of this your partner sometimes/most of the times will be working overtime or their work could be so demanding, you hardly have time for each other.

How do you deal with this????

sometimes is good to miss each other...so i guess u have to be patient and even if the time u spend with each other is not as much as u wish, make it quality time!

yup i agree totally, we do agree in alot of things girl The more they are away the better you get time for yourself and friends and miss each other. In relation or marriage people get bored facing each other 24/7 I like my space that why iam looking for part time marriage

lollll never heared of that: part time marriage, sounds at least interesting:
how it should be like? tell him get out of the bedroom cause i need my space? on second thoughts i think men would like that kind of thing...after all they r scared like rats when it comes to marriage (SOME OF THEM) thinking that we r freedom eaters...so newsflash we also crave for freedom: part time marriage revolution


now back on topic: i guess the wors thing in such cases is to put more pressure on him/her and crawl at his feet screaming for some attention rather than to understand and support him/her

MaaaD wrote:Well we all know in the longer relationships (more than 3 months) you tend to sometimes take your partner for granted .. and thats when you might start putting them as a less priority than work or other things. So i think its a good idea to keep yourself in check about your priorities because you might wake up one day and your partner is feels very unappreciated and might even leave you ..

Dude you're not fooling anyone! We all know what your priorities are

Oh man I just woke up for some reason and can't get back to sleep It's 5AM! And I am working on Saturday! This was my 1 chance to get a good night sleep!!

Anyway let me try to give my input here...

Like Sara said, sometime it's good not to see each other for a while, give each other some space. I guess even in a marriage this could work if each one gets his own hobbies and doesn't have any problem, with the other doing stuff on his/her side. The key thing is to never let the relationship turn into a routine, never take what you have for granted. Yes, love is something very strong. But it isn't enough, it's not going to stay there without the couple working hard to keep what's between them alive.

u r right...once the relationship is ruined u can't fix it with all the love in the world!

If you are here for a partner's work contract and you basically are living separate lives and don't actually spend time together - you had better do something about it. Your partner has to realise that work cannot be everything and he/she had better come home at reasonable hours and spend quality time with his/her family when he/she does have time off. There is no point moving to a country to make some money if it means you lose your love and your family.

I agree with Kanelli.

I observed many times that some are moving to a country but end up living separately and worst some are making another family. I really don't get the logic behind.

Setting of priorities are still important.

MaaaD wrote:Well we all know in the longer relationships (more than 3 months) you tend to sometimes take your partner for granted .. and thats when you might start putting them as a less priority than work or other things. So i think its a good idea to keep yourself in check about your priorities because you might wake up one day and your partner is feels very unappreciated and might even leave you ..

yoo MAAD, I feel the same too.. got to keep givin oxygen to your partner and keep things in check.. the longer ou stay togather, that's true LOVE..

no reply from originator.... dude hope you learnt after these replies lol

tins

kanelli wrote:If you are here for a partner's work contract and you basically are living separate lives and don't actually spend time together - you had better do something about it. Your partner has to realise that work cannot be everything and he/she had better come home at reasonable hours and spend quality time with his/her family when he/she does have time off. There is no point moving to a country to make some money if it means you lose your love and your family.

That's saying plenty, Kanelli. I've decided to leave Dubai for this very reason. My place and time isn't here and now... for now. A couple more months and I'll be on my way.

Well what can I say... I can see my husband is trying hard and exerting all the effort to let me feel everything is Ok even with the tight schedule and all but I cant just convince myself that its Ok. I still feel something is slipping away from me.....

Sorry dont mean to feel bad. But its like this, he will come home when Im asleep and I will leave the house for work while he is still sleeping. His day off will not be the same with mine. Damn.


I have to figure something. Thanks for all your ideas, really appreciate it.

Hang in there Zam!!

I know it must be tough and hope things will change...

Unfortunately in some cases you don't really have a choice. It's easy to say that your personal life, family life should be the top priorities in your life. But sometime things are easier said than done.

Take a couple of my Indian coworkers. 1 of them live in Sharjah and the other in Ajman. Our office is near MoE. They basically have to wake up at 5h30AM every morning as it takes them up to 2h to get to the office. And at the end of the day, they reach their house at 9h30-10PM. They only see their wives at breakfast and dinner. They hardly see their children at all. It's killing them but they just don't have a choice. NOTHING is waiting for them back home in India and they just can't afford paying a rent in Dubai. A 3rd coworker found a 1 room apartment with shared bathroom in Bur Dubai. He's married with 2 children and they have to live in such conditions... AND he's not saving a single dirham every month...

So yeah, talking about priorities is easy, you just need to sometime look at the bigger picture.

Good point Nick. At least those couples can really try to make some time for each other when they are together. Even a small amount of concentrated couple time and showing that you care about the person in small ways (like leaving a sweet note) despite busy schedules can do wonders.

Zam, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Maybe you and your hubby can sit down and discuss ways to stay connected as a couple despite your differing and busy schedules?

Zam,

Sorry too for your situation. Unfortunately, it seems that many of us women are in the same situation.

I have found that my friend's here are my saving grace, along with way too much golf, meeting for coffee, planning girl events at the villa, and spending way too much time on the computer.......occupies most of my time. It is hard to be alone much of the time. I understand how you feel, and can identify with your feelings. I guess I have spent the majority of my adult life being the mom and the dad, raising kids by myself, making many of the major decisions, handling the financial's, and waiting for my husband to come home. The good thing, is when he does come home, I am really glad to see him and be with him. It was easier really when our kids were young because of the diversion.......now it is different, because I came here to be with him, and he is never home. It is a huge adjustment again for me, but somehow the days fly by, and it is all okay for a short lived amount of time in comparison to the time we have spent and the time that we will have in the future. Those of us that are alone much of the time have to be really creative with our time, and the way we spend the day's alone. Don't think I could have done it without really good girlfriend's, my own work, hobbies, and extracurricular activities with children, etc...... This too shall pass!!! I promise!!!

Guys,

What is an average day in the life of an expat living in Dubai?

Is the average commute 30 minutes, 60 minutes...?

Is the average day 8 hours with 30 minute lunch, 9 hours, 10 hours...?

Is work generally fast-paced and forever hectic, or is there a reasonable pace?

Are weekends long enough, and are they always Friday and Saturday?

Lots of strange, vague, and impossible-to-answer questions, I know.

Thanks,
PMS

Guys,

What is an average day in the life of an expat living in Dubai?

Is the average commute 30 minutes, 60 minutes...?

Is the average day 8 hours with 30 minute lunch, 9 hours, 10 hours...?

Is work generally fast-paced and forever hectic, or is there a reasonable pace?

Are weekends long enough, and are they always Friday and Saturday?

Lots of strange, vague, and impossible-to-answer questions, I know.

Thanks,
PMS

Hey Zam,

You can always go to 408. ***hugggs***

Am curious. What's the 408?

Guilo2 wrote:Am curious. What's the 408?

that would be our little secret Guilo2....tnx weary, you r n angel...

And tnx for all your messages, nick,kanelli, dubai_gril, asc, alexandra.....

I have the similar situation with your colleagues nick, my husby is now working in MoE, we live in Deira. While Im getting all sad bec we dont really have much time to spend with each other now, I can see at the same time that he is all doing it for me and our son.

I guess I'll take all your advices....

I will put love notes...in his wallet, closet, maybe even in his shoes?

I will make his breakfast, lunch and dinner yummier than ever!

And when its my rest day, I will see to it that Im awake when he comes home! And I will prepare my best toot toot for him to toot toot

Wrapping it up, your inputs really made me stop and think! Thanks again. I will give this marriage mah best shot as I love him so dear and I cant imagine life w/o him.

zam wrote:

Guilo2 wrote:Am curious. What's the 408?

that would be our little secret Guilo2....tnx weary, you r n angel...

And tnx for all your messages, nick,kanelli, dubai_gril, asc, alexandra.....

I have the similar situation with your colleagues nick, my husby is now working in MoE, we live in Deira. While Im getting all sad bec we dont really have much time to spend with each other now, I can see at the same time that he is all doing it for me and our son.

I guess I'll take all your advices....

I will put love notes...in his wallet, closet, maybe even in his shoes?

I will make his breakfast, lunch and dinner yummier than ever!

And when its my rest day, I will see to it that Im awake when he comes home! And I will prepare my best toot toot for him to toot toot

Wrapping it up, your inputs really made me stop and think! Thanks again. I will give this marriage mah best shot as I love him so dear and I cant imagine life w/o him.

Glad it helped Zam

Wish you all the best!