Chocoholic wrote:Please don't forget however that women are programmed the same way, to seek out the strongest, most suitable man to father her children, it cuts both ways.
very true; this is the process of survial of the fittest. Those most adept to survive and produce offspring will survive and pass genes on. That is why women will go for stronger builds which indicates health, and men are drawn to wider hips because psychologically it shows they are able to bear children.
Also in response to Bear's question. I think it depends. I have seen some men who were seriously in love and very hurt by infidelity. But, there are others who are very opportunistic. That is where the term "rebound" comes from after a break-up. Maybe it is an ego trip..."lets go bang the nearest hottie in an attempt to make myself feel better." Or maybe it is just as simple as "there are way more fish in the sea..time to move on "
I think it depends on the individual relationship and how involved the guy was in the first place.