sweet mary wrote:FeiPo wrote:To be fair... what about if I have a long term bf and I mess around with other guys, what can my previous bf do? He can't do much either, but if we are married, what kind of benefits does he get?
Besides, when he asks you to live with him, you can always say no!! If you do and end up he dumped you. You can't blame him, cause no one forced you to live with him. Think about it, if you didn't have a good time with him, would you even move in with him or going out with him at all. If the relationship didn't work out, that means he is not the right one for you. Doesn't mean he is the bad one.
My friend, boyfiend and girlfriend relationship is far different to live-in set up. Living in as couple without the blessing of marriage, contrast to law of mankind and with the supreme being. Trial marriage without the bond is not a commitment, it's like putting yourself with your partner behind the bars with open doors, anyone can go out if they feel like.
What if you tried once, and it doesn't work out...then second, and third, and fourth? Do you think the last still deserve you? And to man's ego, why they would settle for damage used second hand while there's a brandnew choices? There are some that could settle for less.
At the end of the trial marriages or living-in, you'll see yourself so tired while somehow at the other side, if you di commit and choose the right one at first you already had a good life with a happy family.
Don't get it!! First, we are not for sale so I don't like the second hand thing. I am not too sure about your theory of bf and gf relationship. do the bf and the gf sleep together? are they allow to kiss each other? or even have any physical contact at all? If we have to apply the second hand thing, bf and gf should not do any of these things at all.
How do you chose the right one without even try. ... you don;t know whether you look good in a dress before you try it on. Then have to actually wear the dress a couple times to feel whether it is comfortable not just looking good.
Of course you just don;t live with a guy the day after you met him. You got to date this guy for a while and decide if you want to take one step further with him. Give it a try see if you can live with this guy, if yes good marry him. If not you can just walk out without doing all the paper works.