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I was wondering: why the partner you chose?

In this forum many are married or have a partner and their spouse or significant other won't read the answer so it is easry.

For others, both of you are members of the forum so...shhhhh

Some of you are married and both participate, in which case I know a good family lawyer...

Still others are not hitched and so "there is time"

So why your partner (or what do you hope)? Hyprocrisy not withstanding...

She must be a friend, a lover and a wife and/or g/f all wrapped into one. The ability to talk to eachother, to listen, someone who you want to share everything with i.e. your happiness, your sorrow and adventures.

I found her.

yorky500 wrote:She must be a friend, a lover and a wife and/or g/f all wrapped into one. The ability to talk to eachother, to listen, someone who you want to share everything with i.e. your happiness, your sorrow and adventures.

I found her.

Sounds like Kanelli got to you [or your girlfriend knows your DF ID, etc.]. Try again, you can do better

Its me, yorkshire pudding, honestly.

WOW, This is "deep stuff", Concord!!!

Chose my partner over 30 years ago, and have no clue how this happens. We were so young and thought we were in love at the time, however, when you are young how does one know?

yorky500 wrote:Its me, yorkshire pudding, honestly.

I think you are gettin lucky tonight - or at least hoping to

dubai girl wrote:WOW, This is "deep stuff", Concord!!!

Chose my partner over 30 years ago, and have no clue how this happens. We were so young and thought we were in love at the time, however, when you are young how does one know?

What, and he's now suffering for it? hahahahahahahaha j/k

I have been asked by my 27 year old daughter about "how do you know". For some reason it is very difficult for me to put into words.

In her case, she has dated someone for 10 years and is not convinced he is "the one" for her. They are total opposites in most ways. He is much more giving than she is, and she is a "career girl" and was raised to be very independent. She does not live in the same town (where they met and went to school, etc) anymore. She has been known to date and go out with other guys. I am sorry to say this, but it is true. Deep down she knows that he is not the one for her, but she won't totally give it up. I have really given her opinion about this. I believe that she is wrong, and that if she doesn't think she will go forward in the relationship, she must break up with him. She knows that our entire family loves him and would chose him if we could, but after long discussions with her, I have convinced her not to marry him (he informed her that he would buy the ring), and she almost had a heart attack.....she feels guilty, knows he is deeply in love with her and trusts her TOTALLY. He has no clue that he is not the only one. Complexed situation. I have been told by my daughter that she is not attracted to him. He is not agressive in the relationship at all, and lets her run the show. There is no passion, and she has informed me of this.

I on the other hand, did not ever feel that way about my husband. We were very good friends, had many friends in common then started dating in college. I have been with him ever since. He is the love of my life, and I don't know what I would do if he were not in my life. When I was young, I was much more independent and hard to manage. BUT my husband recognized my independence and appreciated it (and knew how much it meant to me to be that way). Marriage has it's up's and it's down's, it is not easy, but if you are with the right person - and they are committed, then you can conquer just about anything.

There are many important factors in chosing a partner.

Similar upbringing (makes it simpler)
Passion
Honesty
Committment
Willing to swallow your pride every once in a while
Sharing your dreams with each other without judgement
and many more.....

Shouldn't this be in romance?

Er with me, we were kinda thrown together, seems to be going ok so far.

WOW! That's inspirational momma. Many thanks.

Chocoholic wrote:Shouldn't this be in romance?

Er with me, we were kinda thrown together, seems to be going ok so far.

Chocs..........glad to see you again!!! Maybe it should be in romance, but it's Concord's thread.....

DG, with what you posted, I'm melancholy now...

It is really amazing how one find his/her partner. Some are fortunate and some are not that much blest.

Almost 4 years ago, I thought I found 'the one' for me but after 3.5 years of being together, sweet turned sour is how I could describe our relationship.

Honesty, commitment, same beliefs, less culture differences, and of course if you do love each other unconditionally then I think that would make a good lifetime partnership.

Because I've got the power. As long as I've got it, then I know it will be
all right.

can't answer this really... only one woman has been lucky enough to find me... and she's no longer with us

bear wrote:can't answer this really... only one woman has been lucky enough to find me... and she's no longer with us

say what?

Concord wrote:
Still others are not hitched and so "there is time"

Couldn't say anything... Lemme sing instead..

Time, I've been passing time watching trains go by
All of my life
Lying on the sand watching seabirds fly
Wishing there could be someone
Waiting home for me

Something's telling me it might be you
It's telling me it might be you
All of my life

Looking back as lovers go walking past
All of my life
Wondering how they met and what makes it last
If I found the place would I recognize the face

Something's telling me it might be you
It's telling me it might be you
So many quiet walks to take
So many dreams to wake and there's so much love to make

I think we’re gonna need some time
Maybe all we need is time
And it's telling me it might be you
All of my life

I've been saving love songs and lullabies
And there's so much more
No one's ever heard before
Something's telling me it might be you
Yeah, it's telling me it must be you and
I'm feeling it'll just be you
All of my life
It's you, it's you I've been waiting for all of my life
Maybe it's you Maybe it's you I've been waiting for all of my life.

Stephen Bishop.