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dave101 wrote:well i hope they are not all easy and desperate as im about to move to dubai for 12 months with work, and im just nicely into a relationship but my gf will stay in the UK, i used to be easily tempted, i believe im stronger now, trial by fire huh?
valkyrie wrote:kanelli wrote:Some people get their self-worth by being attractive and desirable to members of the opposite s.e.x. They may seem like they have high self-esteem, but really they don't. Society makes women more than men obsessed with being beautiful and s.e.x.y. That is something for everyone to think about and consider when forming their own opinions, or if raising daughters.
i think one of the most offensive assumptions people make is that when girls have s.e.x and seek out s.e.xual activity they're somehow doing it for the guy, or for some ulterior motive like to prove they're attractive to help their self esteem or to feel loved or something, rather than simply wanting s.e.x. When people hear about highschool students being 'slutty' they don't think "she must be having a great time!" or "good for her that she's so popular with guys and gets what she wants from them" but rather something demeaning like "she must have really low self esteem" or "she must be using s.e.x to fill an emotional void in her life" or some such thing. No one makes those types of assumption with guys.
To me, the idea that slutty girls are doing it not for themselves but for the guys is an incredibly male centered perspective that really dismisses the extent of their agency.
dubaimisfit wrote:Easy? Maybe... Though I support those who state they ain't all like that.
I mean, saw this in some of the clubs - girls & boys get pissed alike, leave together and who knows what happens next.
Someone rightly said if you're a bold mofo with a thick wallet, you probably get a money orientated fairy in a mater of minutes.
But what if you're a bloke who: doesn't look like he stinks cash, doesn't find it easy to just walk up and strike a conversation, doesn't look for a one nite stand but friendship (and doesn't look like that Borat guy from the other topic). What d'you do?
dubaimisfit wrote:Well if you ask me - I go out there, trying to wear as out-of-fashion tight pants as possible and a silk shirt with my fur all stickin out, walk up to girls from behind and go "Booo!!!"
If they react I say "Yakshemash girl I like you wanna make love come I show you Kazakhstan".
Why don't you think it doesn't work? I'm just being an honest & friendly bloke...
Seriously - I don't know WHAT to do. Seems kind of hard to just walk up and strike a conversation.
I'd rather sign up to an expat forum and try to squeeze some thought from my sun-shrunken brain. It just rained today so who knows? Maybe something will sprout.
What do You do?
dubaimisfit wrote:many thanks, guys
I don't think it's much about the fear of rejection, as I realise well it's just there, and it doesn't really hurt
but you're definitely right - it's about getting that stress out
smart one
asc_26 wrote:^^additional words from the master.
Flattery will get you everywhere with me. Watch it 
asc_26 wrote:I am blind.
MaaaD wrote:Nick are you being called the master of dealing with being rejected
MaaaD wrote:Nick are you being called the master of dealing with being rejected
You smarta$$! You disclosed it right away. 
He was ranting last night so i wanna be subtle...nick, at least it came from MaaaD. 
), a small community with a majority of uprooted expats, looking for some company, with or without a hidden agenda...
asc_26 wrote::shock:
another posting as "single" on here. (Ian should read this one...and save your arse..kiddin!)
You'll have your time Camelia dearest. Explore dubai & don't sit there and watch movies (psst...don't follow what i am doin')..go out and meet real peeps.
btw, welcome to DF.
u r my first fly.. just kidding.. and for the record, if i knew where to find real peeps, do u think i'd be on this forum keeping u company asc_26 wrote::oops:
Camelia (aka Ms. Lonely), Mr. Lonely is just around the corner waitin' for yah.
) to the zenith of bliss?! u lucky one! asc_26 wrote::oops:
Camelia (aka Ms. Lonely), Mr. Lonely is just around the corner waitin' for yah.
....just arround the corner and waiting= freack
alexandra wrote:asc_26 wrote::oops:
Camelia (aka Ms. Lonely), Mr. Lonely is just around the corner waitin' for yah.
that sounds so scary
just kidding
camelia wrote:alexandra wrote:asc_26 wrote::oops:
Camelia (aka Ms. Lonely), Mr. Lonely is just around the corner waitin' for yah.
that sounds so scary
hey alex, r u the party-poo... or sth?
i was just fantasysing about this Mr. L when ur message popped up!!!
it immediately lowered the temperature.. big time
good than...sometimes we all need somebody to take us back to reality
camelia wrote:asc_26 wrote::oops:
Camelia (aka Ms. Lonely), Mr. Lonely is just around the corner waitin' for yah.
hey, which corner? S-N-E-W?? i've checked them all out, nada!
btw, what's the shortcut (or even long way
you'll have your own zenith of bliss, just don't be scared to reach that corner. alex is trying to scare you though.
