gracy wrote:i have my checklist:
1. Love yourself first.
2. Give him ultimate freedom.
3. Let him be the HEAD of the family.
4. Support him.
5. Respect him.
6. Admire him.
7. When tempted to say something mean, count to 10 or 20 or...
8. Don't expect too much from him.
9. Have a weekly date.
10. Always have a smile for him when he gets home.
11. Don't let yourself go
12. Be a good cook
13. Be a mistress in bed
14. Go out separately from time to time
15. Be consistent
but i think it is still lacking...
Dealing with interpersonal relationships is a complex subject that is often given inadequate attention by communities. Each individual in a group has a particular and unique personality style that has been shaped by the lifetime of their experience. There are driver types and quiet folk, expressives, analyticals, reserved, shy, reactive and many others. After you have been working together for awhile, an attentive person with training will recognize members personalities and styles and then use that understanding to predict how the group will react to different situations. As the group gets into conflicts, the elements of group dynamics and personality style need to be taken into account by the facilitators of the group.It is important to make, even at a surface level, some determination about yourself and how you are likely to affect the group dynamic. Ask yourself : Do I talk a lot, or very little? Am I confident about myself and my ideas? Do I listen to others well, or am I impatient having to listen to others? Am I empathetic to others or do I care mostly about getting the task done? When others speak, am I listening to what they say, or thinking about what I am going to say? Am I quick to anger? Am I defensive or accepting when someone talks about my behavior? Do I ramble or am I a bulleted list sort of person? What makes me annoyed? What makes me feel good?
As you define yourself as a member of the group you will find your strengths and areas that need improving. A good exercise in community building is to share how you perceive yourself.