Speedhump..
Yes I may have been over sensitive the other day and reacted/attacked and that may have had thousands of reasons. The point here is, on the forum, every day, people order others to be cool, we read people telling people to do things in a certain way/s or not to do it at all, we call people with names, use the joke/sarcasm as an alibi to hurt.
Those orders carry certain messages like do it my way, be cool, get over it and learn to take the verbal abuse etc..
Asking people to be cool is asking them to fit in, learn to be strong, basically, to change. Do you think we can teach people those things online..
By doing these we hurt individuals, hurt their feelings, scare them, make them unsafe, we may also cause them emotional pain.
I don’t think this is a boot camp, or a correction centre, people will behave badly or out of ordinary because each one of us are different individuals with different backgrounds, family/culture. The forum should be the resource where people take good things home from, think about and change themselves willingly; which is the safest way to do.
The important thing here is to understand how/why people behave the way they do. That knowledge allows us to get along with others, and with their ideas.
I may be able to ignore/accept your messages and come back, however, for somebody else that may come across as criticism, which might be damaging; they may shy away, shut down or hide.
A member revealed a health issue the other day and next day someone else used it as a weapon to attack; very dangerous !!
Passing judgment/attacking others when done in the comfort of our homes, front of a screen, is easy. We simply type the words without thinking the affects that might have on others.
This isn’t about keeping members happy, this is about being kind to other human beings without being judgmental, respecting differences and helping them in their need to change –if there’s the need- by putting our knowledge into the forum, not filling it with orders/borders. if you’re different in some way, be proud of it! Kia Kaha- stand strong
There are members that stopped posting simply because they encounter harshness and cruelty, because they have different ideas that clash with other’s.
Surely people will come, stay on, enjoy or not, will stay or will leave, but at the end of the day, they should make the decision to leave, not be forced into. If you go back and do some backward reading you will see..
There’re also highly intelligent individuals here on the forum with willingness to teach, make a difference in our lives, who see the need for change that would help us to integrate better/quicker.
Please do not take this as the reflection of my offense to your post; this has truly noting to do with that, this is something I have been noticing ever since I signed on the forum.
I think we all have the responsibility to provide a safe, learning and fun environment for everyone; on the forum, and out in life.
Regards
